Self-Care is not as simple as taking a bubble baths, lighting candles, and pampering yourself, it's allowing yourself time to feel the emotions and tell yourself that you're doing great, that who you are today in the now moment is okay, and that all of you is more than enough. Tune into Jennifer's Perspectives to learn the steps to take to develope and practice true Self-Care and Self-Compassion so that you can bring more love and light to your life and shine bright and live your best life.
Continuing the conversation on compassion..What is Self-Compassion?
What does it really mean to have compassion for yourself?
Often as soon as you say compassion, people think that it is something that you have to bring to people. Seeing myself accurately and accepting myself which is always and unfolding journey. Every time that I think that I know myself, then a year later I look back and realize that I knew nothing.
One of my favorite lines from the Games of Thrones is quote" You Know Nothing John Snow" Because every year when I think I am getting a clue, a year goes by (past) and I realize you know nothing Jennifer.
Self-Compassion is not my strong suit. I always strive so much and I want to grow so much, and I want to learn so much, pursuing, God who is my source and creator, wisdom and knowledge. Pausing long enough to reflect. "You're okay, you're okay just as you are, you're doing okay" instead of striving for the next thing to "be okay".
That's been a part of my addiction for years and I've been working for 15 years now on enjoying the pauses, the breaths, as much as the run, the sprint and as much as the marathon.
It is still my slick. This journey for me of Self-Compassion is accepting me as I am in this very moment and being totally okay with it and about it, including all of my flaws. But to say that I accept myself, I've got to see myself accurately first.
So to me Self-Compassion isn't and arrival point it is an ever unfolding moments of learning more about who I am and who I could be and how I am showing up.
It's not as simple as having baths and lighting candles and meditating. Self-Compassion is I am doing great! Who I am today "is okay" and all of me is more than enough. "I am more than enough".
So it's not just bath salts and candles and mood lighting.
What people call Self-Care, It's a much deeper reflection within ourselves. Am I showing up in this moment taking care of me? You know people pleasers, this is for you. People pleasing, is suppressing me, Self-Compassion is expressing me, what I need in this moment.
Self-Compassion is feeling it, noticing I feel it, acknowledging I feel it, expressing I feel it and then the ultimate is having acknowledge that appropriately and compassionately, that's Self-Compassion.
Compassion could probably be measured by how people allow you to express and reflet it back to you accurately, respectfully and approriately and fully not just the bits and aspects that they are comfortable with but the bits and aspects of it all.
Join me next week on Jennifer's Persectives" as we continue our discussion on SELF-COMPASSION and What is self-compassion and What does it mean to have compassion for yourself.