“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson.
How brightly can you shine? How big can you radiate your light? What if we all shone brightly? The world would be aglow.
Every day most of us hold back. We dim our light so that others won’t be uncomfortable – so they won’t feel left out – or left in the dust by the people they love. When a bright light shines, it makes people nervous, but I detect a lie here – is it an illusion?
What is your light? It’s a combination of all that you are, were, and endeavor to be. It’s your personal strengths, natural gifts, and even your physical vitality and health that combine into a kind of energy, a light, that shines out to the world.
It’s who you are, at your core. It’s the fullest expression of who you are, your personal vibration, beliefs, hopes, and more. It’s that part of you where you honor your “goodness” and “darkness,” and accept your true thoughts, experiences, and desires.
When you are in touch with your light, shine it up, let it out, and share it, it is seen and felt by the people who know you, and even people who just experience you in daily life. And it feels good to you because you’re honoring who you are, in total.
But too often we dim our light, and it leads to us feeling depressed, repressed, and like we are living a half life.
You can think of dimming your light as shrinking to fit into someone else’s expectations of you, cramming your energetic self into a box, or twisting your personality into a pretzel so as to be more palatable to the world. But it’s a half-truth. You’re still you, but you’re not the full expression of you. A half-you. And it stops you from feeling like yourself. It’s a half-true, inauthentic existence which doesn’t light up ourselves, or anyone else.
HERE ARE THREE WAYS WE DIM OUR LIGHT:
Hiding our views, opinions, desires, and boundaries from others in an effort to be liked and feel safe. We minimize our true feelings because people tell us what we feel isn’t real, or we try to ignore our truth because it’s not convenient for others.
Mistaking our light for our accomplishments, bank account, or external validation of our worth.
Over exerting ourselves, doing too much for everyone else, and blowing a fuse because we run out of steam from overwork and stress.
We dim our light energetically so as not to shine too bright.
We worry that if we let out who we really are, shine our fullest expression, that we’ll be made fun of, ignored,or made wrong for “thinking we are all that.” We fear being kicked out of our tribe of friends or family.
And this fear is real: either because you were told as a kid that you were “too much,” or experienced being “mean girled” or “shunned” out of a group when you were growing up, you hide our truth, strengths, and light because it’s better to be safely accepted as part of the group than left out in the cold, alone.
Second, we mistake our light with accomplishment, financial success, and other external validation. We ignore the basic truth that we are and have a natural light, are inherently loved and are worthy of love by the Universe, and continue to chase something outside of us.
We want to be told we are acceptable, rather than feeling into our innate acceptance of ourselves. The truth that’s easy to believe logically, yet hard to embody, is that we are all worthy beings. You are worthy and valuable simply because you exist.
This is a truth that great spiritual teachers have been reminding us of since humans could doubt themselves. It’s the truth that we know about our children, yet don’t extend to ourselves. So even though you may not totally feel it yet, try my belief on for size, as if I were lending you a cozy sweatshirt: YOU, my dear, are worthy and lovable. Just as you are.
Finally, there are the ways that we overextend ourselves, giving away all of our energy, all of our light, so that our fuse begins to buckle under the pressure, and we blow out.